Looking for the sons I gave up
By Frederick R. Bedell Jr.

I would like to speak about the adoption issue.

There are many children who have been adopted and as adults are looking for their biological parents.

And some parents are looking for their biological children because, for one reason or another, they were forced to place their children up for adoption.

I, myself, am one of the latter. I’m 68 years old and have been longing to make peace with my two sons, Tommy and Bobby, who were adopted in the ‘70s while I served in the U.S. Navy.

My wife had left us and I could not financially take care of our boys and had to place them in foster care. They were later adopted because I had no plan to properly provide for them and my ex-wife could not provide for them either.

I believe any adopted child, once he or she reaches their 21st birthday, has the right to know who their biological parents were and the reasons they were forced to give them up. In the end, we all need to know our past and try to make peace with our children before we leave this world.

I would love to have the opportunity to tell my children that I am sorry and tell them about their biological family. Christmas is coming and of all things I would wish for, a reunion with my sons would be the greatest gift I could have because above all, I could tell them that I love them.

Frederick R. Bedell Jr.

Glen Oaks Village

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