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Happy New Year! As the New Year begins, many people make resolutions and think about changes they want to make in their lives. Usually these changes are significant and meaningful, which also means they can be overwhelming.
In relationships, as in most areas of your life, changes do not happen overnight although we often expect them to. How many times have you made a “New Year’s resolution” only to abandon it when you didn’t see instantaneous results?
Whether you want to lose weight, find a mate or enhance your current relationship, it takes ‘Small Things Often.’ If you make small changes in your life and continue to commit to these changes on a frequent and continuous basis you WILL see big change.
Here are four steps to making the changes that you want the most:
START BIG: Find the area in your life that you want to change. For example it may be that you want to create more romance in your relationship. The big picture would be to create a relationship filled with daily romance. If its losing weight, the big picture is to lose 30 pounds.
WRITE IT ALL DOWN: Make sure to write down each step so you can gain clarity and keep yourself on track.
CREATE SMALL STEPS TO GET TO THE BIG GOAL: Write down your big goal and come up with small steps to get you to your goal. If romance is what you want, then a small goal can be to expand your love maps on a daily basis. Love maps are making an effort to learn about your partner’s inner world by asking questions. These are questions that may have been easy during courtship but have hit the back burner once one is settled in a marriage and kids enter the picture. Make time to ask your partner about their inner world on a daily basis for just 10 minutes and watch your romance soar. (Learn more at a Bringing Baby Home Workshop.) If a new mate is what you are after then you can commit to an online dating plan. Step one can be to join and write a killer profile. (Learn more in the book The Mating Manual).
SHARE YOUR STEPS WITH A SUPPORTER: You have a greater chance of success if you have a supporter in reaching your goals. Your partner will love to know that you are committed to creating more romance in your relationship. If you share your steps, your partner can join in and romance does take two! Having a supporter or coach helps you to stay committed. So share your small steps and your big goals and ask for support.
Take small steps often: Forget about the big goal and just focus on throwing yourself in to each small step fully. Take each small step often and you will see great results.
I wish you the best of luck with creating what you desire and deserve. Let me know how I can support you and let me know how it’s going!

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