With Father’s Day right around the corner, Care Support of America is suggesting a different kind of gift for some aging dads – independence.
“As our fathers age, they want to remain independent, but not to be a burden, and – no offense – they usually don’t want to move in with their children,” said Care Support of American Founder and CEO Dr. Dan Tobin. “Helping your dad safely age at home can be the best gift – and the best Father’s Day gift – you can give him, once you notice even small changes in his ability to get around.”
One of Tobin’s recommendations involves keeping dad active and connected. He said that “the most important indicators for wellness in aging are staying physically active and staying connected to others or to a community.”
Children should also take note of how their father is keeping his house. This, Tobin said, could indicate if someone is needed to assist with housecleaning or home repairs, particularly ones that can prevent falls.
Tobin said that it is also important to ensure that a person’s father is eating properly. They may want to check what is in the refrigerator.
Another area that could be beneficial is that of adaptive technologies. Whether they be high tech or low tech, they could not only prove beneficial but may also be something dad may enjoy using. Examples that Tobin gave include kitchen utensils and tools with bigger grips, a webcam or e-mail.
The next area on Tobin’s list is that of driving.
“Driving may be one of the most difficult issues to discuss. Men almost always resist the need to stop driving. Your dad’s driving skills need to be re-assessed in light of vision, responsiveness, hearing and night vision,” Tobin said. “If his driving is restricted, be willing to compromise – maybe driving only in the daytime or in familiar places. You can also help in setting him up with alternative transportation services.”
Finances are another personal topic that may need to be addressed. Tobin said that to ensure a parent’s finances are in order, a child may want to look at bills, rent, mortgages, credit cards and taxes, among other things.
“If his budget is stretched, you can try to find free services in his community,” Tobin said. “If possible, you can also offer to pay for services such as home health aides, home repairs, cleaning services, transportation and entertainment.”
Tobin concluded his advice by saying, “Often an individualized family plan goes a long way to show your dad that the entire family is mobilized around giving him the gift he really, really wants for Father’s Day – independence and support.”
For more information on Care support of America, an independent family care manager service, visit www.caresupportofamerica.com.
